The Four Things Every Guy Must Have to be a Dad
Anyone can father a child, but those of us in the club know it’s something else entirely to be a “Dad”. Now, I’m not going to start this list with the typical, “You must show unconditional love”. That and the like are all a given. I’m going to give you some small nuggets of wisdom I’ve learned in my short three years of fatherhood.
Be Silly – That’s right, be a total goof. While your children may beg you to stop once they are teenagers, while they are young it’s the best thing in the world. Make your best crazy faces while you brush their teeth. Make up songs and have singalongs while in the bath or getting them dressed – you don’t need to sing well. Pretend you’re ninjas trying to put away toys while barrel-rolling across the floor. It’s the little things like this that bond you and your kids together. It creates memorable experiences out of the otherwise forgettable things in life. Being silly doesn’t stop in the house either. Show them that life is fun and meant to be enjoyed. Teach your children by example to be lighthearted and love fun. Now don’t get me wrong; there are times to be serious, but don’t forget to have fun and loosen up.
Stop the Baby Talk – While being silly with your kids is great, don’t confuse it with “Does my wittle baby wanna drinky-poo?” Not only is baby talk disgusting, it should stop when your child is not an infant anymore. You want your child to be able to speak clearly and articulate what they are saying, right? Then why bombard them constantly with high-pitched Elmer Fudd talk? Speech is not the only issue here. I’m sure you know someone who baby talks too much to their child. Now ponder this, doesn’t this same person also baby their child a little too much as well? Chances are, if you are speaking to your child like a baby, you’re treating them like one too. I was recently at a party where a father was talking to his two year old daughter like she was two months old, and boy was that kid a whiner. Don’t treat your child like an infant and they won’t act like one.
Be Stone Cold – No, I don’t mean elbow drop your kids like Steve Austin. Life is full of unexpected moments and sometimes those unexpected moments are your kids getting sick or injured. When your child has to go the emergency room or is laying in bed vomiting with a high fever – don’t lose it. You need to be the dad who keeps it together so when your little one looks at you they know everything is going to be okay. In your head you may be screaming, “HOLY SHIT THIS IS BAD!”, but on the outside you need to be a stone cold rock ready to do what needs to be done to help your child.
Wet Wipes – Possibly greater than the highly regarded invention of sliced bread. There is nothing wet wipes cannot do. Know them, own them, love them. Runny noses, poopy diapers, food covered faces, dirty hands, feet, you name it – wet wipes has you covered. Without these on hand you may be forced to assault your kids with a freshly licked napkin. Remember those? Yes, nobody like those.
Enjoy Incubus? Enjoy Ben Kenney!
Ben Kenney has been the resident bassist in Incubus since 2003, but what most people don’t know (as I didn’t until recently) is how wonderful his solo work is. As a talented multi-instrumentalist Ben writes and records all the instruments on his records making it truly a “solo” effort. While he can sing and play various instruments extremely well and make it seem effortless, what really impresses are his songs. This dude writes great music!
Ben has four full length releases available and I urge you to check them out. I’ll think you be as pleasantly surprised as I was. http://www.benkenney.com/
DECENTER EP
Thanks to the digital revolution of music production I've been able to venture out on my own to record and produce professional sounding music without the need of a full studio with all the bells and whistles. The manifestation of this is DECENTER. I've recently uploaded a self titled EP (which you can listen to above) as well as an EP of DECENTER's take on some cover tunes. Please check it out! You can download high quality version of the tracks, DRM free, for only $3.
SmugMug Exit Stage Right
Two years ago this image placed first in a monthly contest on the long since gone SD Photo Forum. The prize was a one year Pro membership to SmugMug. I was able to customize the site with all of my fancy logos, create multiple galleries, sell and purchase prints of my work; I loved it. The first year went by pretty quickly and before I knew it I was faced with the renewal fee. With all the great features I had been enjoying I gladly ponied up the $150 annual fee and went on with my SmugMug business. Now another year has gone by and they want another $150 from me. While I’ve enjoyed SmugMug, that is a lot of money to me, and I imagine it is to most people nowadays. If I was spending my time working as a photographer it would be completely worth it, but as a prosumer – not so much.
I was very upset when my membership was cancelled. I sulked around the house, mourning the loss of my site and the hundreds upon hundreds of processed photos I had uploaded. I tried to rationalize the continued use of the site, “But what about all my extended family that used it to view and purchase prints?” or “What about all the cool galleries I had created and the viewing options?”. After sleeping on it for a night, I see my arguments don’t really hold up. With Facebook, and now Google+, majority of my photos and videos are shared on social networking sites and the extra effort on the part of a viewer to click a link taking them away from their social site is one step too many for most. Yes, it was nice to order cheap prints but there are many other sites online I can utilize as well. This has also forced me to finally put a site together integrating my photography with my music, art, gaming, etc; which you’re looking at now.
So it’s been a great two years SmugMug. I’ll see you around.
-Garry
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-Garry







